Discussion Board: Post Natal Depression

i'm a bit concerned on why i didn't get it or did i get post natal depression. my friend said your not normal if you don't get post natal depression. i just figured that i'd always wanted to be a mum and thats why i didn't get it could it be that i just didn't get it

Not everyone gets post natal depression so your friend is full of crap. Everybody reacts differently to new changes in their lives. Some embrace it, some fear it and some just keep going like it was anyother day. I myself am a sufferer of post natal depression, its not something you want to go through or feel, so count yourself lucky that you are coping just fine! I have always wanted to be a mum but with current situations, past situations and just a weakness on my part Ive let myself get low and down and out. I have only just started to seek help and wish that I had of done this at least 2months ago, my daughter is now 4months old and I am a mess :( I am hopeful however that I will get better I will feel stronger and I'll be able to go on better than before. Trying to keep my eye on that silver lining is all thats getting me through at the moment.

Hi HaileysComet just wondering how you are feeling these days? What help did you get and is it working? I really hope that your situation has improved, you have good support and things are looking up.

Hi Glow-Worm :)

Thank you for your post, I am feeling better every day, sometimes I start to feel like crap again and there seems to be this huge black hole trying to swallow me whole but with the amazing support from my partner and just looking into my daughters eyes I know that things arent as bad as they may seem to me. Are you a sufferer of post Natal?

Yes I think I am. I find it really hard to talk about as i hate feeling like I can't cope and also I find it really hard to verbalise how i actually feel, i just can't explain it. I have an 18mth and 3mth old and i love them dearly and I love being a mother. I thnk "lilmissprecious" is confused with "baby blues" most people get the baby blues, and that usually hits in the first week and only for a few days. Im glad you have a supportive partner HaileysComet. I think mine struggles to understand exactly what is wrong with me, which is undertsandable as often i cant explain it either, but i will try. I personally go through a wide range of emotions, and different thing can trigger extreme feelings of dread, anxity, or just render me a blubbering mess, its like every negative feeling or bad emotion i have experienced in the last 6months comes back all at one time and i am taken hostage by it. And I guess it is different for everyone. We don't have any family where we live, so at times it can also feel quite isolating. Some days are better than others, one day at a time :) Today is a good day :) Hang in there Haileys Comet, you're not alone :)

Ive found that its taken a lot of work to be able to feel like "yup the pain and the sadness is still here but whether I let it overtake me is only really up to me" I could cry and cry and cry while my partner was at work and I would sit there and start to argue with him in my head because he wasnt there he didnt care he didnt want to know what was wrong with me, and in turn I ended up slowly pushing and pushing him away. When in reality I had never gone to him and said "Hey I feel like shit, I cry alone while your at work, Im numb, and I need help" It took for things to escalate to the point where we were talking about breaking up because I flipped when he wanted to go out to a party without me. The argument went on longer than it needed to things were said that didnt need to be said and in the end it all came down to me being dpressed and letting it take controll of my mind in a sence.

You are right though, it is very different for all of us., I guess what Im trying to say is that this is what Ive found.... When I get to the point where something comes up that use to break me, I literally shake it out of my head and I think of something positive. Im trying to retrain my brain in a sence. So the things that get me down will soon not even be a factor. they wont be a thought because Im sorta pushing them outta my head. Granted things that need to be "resolved" or discussed I think you really need to do that. I dont quite know what your situation is glow-worm but perhaps this might work for you?? I check my mail daily so if you want want to talk more Im more than happy to listen :)

HANG ON TO THE GOOD DAYS!!! :)

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