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Hi, I have a nearly 11 year old girl in her last year at Primary School who is developing faster than her peers in the puberty department and is also very sensitive. There is a group of girls who are friendly one minute, then start picking on her and leaving her out the next. Today she was in a flood of tears (again) because they told her they were not going to be her friend any more. I don't know what to do about it. The school teachers are being supportive and often have the girls as a group in the office talking, but it is happening often and is of course upsetting for us all. The Mother Lion in me wants to go and vent my anger on the girls for hurting my "cub" but I don't want her being teased about having her mother stand up for her either. What should I do???

Hi Chris38,

I was faced with a similar situation recently where some little "germ" at school was bullying my five year old son. Out came the "Mother Lion" and I embarrassed this little weed in front of all his classmates by going in to the classroom and asking him why he was bullying a boy 1/2 his age etc...! - I also told the teacher what I had done and expected her to keep an eye on the situation. Since then this boy hasn't done anything to bother my son.

Bullying is just not on and unfortunately it is so hard at school with peer pressure, girls of that age and puberty - just wait till they get there themselves!!!

See if you can get your daughter to hang out at school with her "true" friends and try (I know it's hard) to ignore those "pretend friends".

Be very proud of your daughter that it is not her in the situation of these petty little girls and she is far more of a "fantastic person" by not being them!

Good luck through this trying time and it's great that you are there for her!

Best wishes,

Susie - Kiwi Families
www.kiwifamilies.co.nz

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