Discussion Board: Toddlers and Pre-schoolers

I just thought I'd start a discussion on this matter as I have done this (until we shifted). I left work back in 2004 to have my first baby. I wasn't asked if I wanted to return to my job afterwards or not. My boss basically made my choice for me. I wouldn't have wanted to go bavck there anyway after the way I was treated during my pregnancy by other staff members. Well in 2006 our second child came along. She was 7 months old when a wellmeaning friend decided I was wanting to return to work. I had made MY decision to stay as a fulltime Mum but to make everyone else happy I returned to work at my other job (I had two part time jobs before I left work in 2004). It was only a couple of days per week but I just wasn't enjoying it as much as I used to as I hadn't done it for ME. I was making everyone else happy. My husband thought I was happy returning to work (he supported me in whatever I dicided). This time last year I just broke down one day at work and texted my husband and asked him to type my resignation letter up for me. I just wasn't happy in my job anymore and realised it was because I'd returned to work to make everyone else happy without thinking of myself and what I wanted. My husband still supports my decision to remain a fulltime stay at home Mum especially after baby #3 came along earlier this year (on my Mum's 2nd anniversary. Sorry for going on abit but I'd love to hear what others have say on this subject. No judgemental comments though please.

I left work in 2004 too, then while I was still on maternity leave they decided to relocate my office to the other side of the country and I was also pregnant with my second child. I took voluntary retundancy and have been a stay at home mum ever since. Now that my daughter is in kindy and eagerly awaiting to start school and my son is about to get his 20 free hours I was considering returning to work....but to do what...part of me wants to take this opportunity to try and different line of work...but I've been out of the workforce for so long I'm terrified of going back so want to stay doing what I was doing before....but then I also now want term-time work, oh and of course I want part-time work....so my options are really limited. I've applied for a couple of part-time jobs over the last week or so, during which time I've decided that I definitely only want term-time work and only mornings too....I got an interview for a job at the same level as when I left work, which I turned down because they wouldn't consider term-time, and the job I applied for that was part-time term-time and which is a job that I could have walked into before I left work back in 2004 i didn't even get an interview for....hmm what to do now? Am I going to be stuck at home until my youngest goes to school because I can't cope with the guilt of putting them into nursery?

Good on you robynsnest for going back and giving it a go, you're braver than me. I'm now thinking that I should take this time at home to do some sort of courses so that I can perhaps try a different field of work whenever I do eventually make it back into the workforce.

Sorry about the rant, but I feel better now that I've got that off my chest.

Ta

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