Discussion Board: Toddlers and Pre-schoolers

Hi there My baby is at day care 4 times a week and she has settled in reasonably well and trusts her caregivers. This morning I was disheartened when a little boy came over to say hello and my baby pushed him over. I was mortified!! I discussed this with the caregivers and they said they were going to talk to me about it as she seems to be doing it quite a bit. They advised that this is her way of expressing herself as she can't find the words yet (she is 20 months old). I really want to nip this in the bud asap. I promote love when she's frustrated with things at home and try to help her out of her frustrations. I am interested to hear any ideas or experiences other parents may have had with their children. I am a solo parent trying to grow a well rounded and loved child. Grateful for any feedback. Myra

Sorry, I can't help. I haven't had to deal with anything like this yet. But I just wanted to say good luck with trying to sort it out. All I can suggest is you try to show her love and explain to her the pushing is not acceptable - as they can always understand more than they can actually communicate. I hope someone else has some better advice.

I have been told and also think myself that maybe you helping her when she is frustrated isn't what she wants and wants to do it herself so is also pushing you away, then ofcause other kids may also do the same thing and try to help so she pushs them away. We leave our girl alone if she is trying to do something and it is not working, they need to be able to vent there frustrations not bottle it up and also work it out for themself. As audlts we do this all the time.

with this as my 2 year old has also started doing this to all children he meets (after having an older boy do it to him), its got to the stage where we dont go anywhere if there are other children. I've tried the 'we dont push/hit other children' approach and have also tried time out but this isn't always to do when in shops

My 3 year old , nearly 4 has a habit of pushing her nearly 2 year old Sister around and and pushing in a little at kindergarten. she is has difficulty with speech and under a speech therapist. with learning new words gradually to contain this problem weekly.
She is in her third tern with this and improving .

My 3 year old , nearly 4 has a habit of pushing her nearly 2 year old Sister around and and pushing in a little at kindergarten. she is has difficulty with speech and under a speech therapist. with learning new words gradually to contain this problem weekly.
She is in her third tern with this and improving .

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