Writers: Debbie Knowles and Julie Mulcahy

Debbie Knowles and Julie Mulcahy

Julie Mulcahy is married to Peter, a Primary School Principal and is descended from a long line of teachers. Julie has taught Years 4 through to Year 13, moved from country schools in Bay of Plenty, Waikato and Northland and spent the past 10 years in Auckland where she has worked for six large secondary schools taking referrals for senior students who had learning or behaviour needs.

6 Ways to Teach Your Children Tolerance

teaching tolerance to kids

When I see the words ‘sustainable families’, I think of families that last the distance. What is the secret ingredient that helps some families last the distance? My guess is that it’s tolerance. Continue reading »

Making a success of starting intermediate or secondary school


In the old days when I was growing up  – way back in the sixties and the seventies  – school and home seemed like two different and separate worlds. If you failed at school, chances were your parents thought perhaps you went to school to eat your lunch or have a snooze. Maybe they thought you were lazy or ‘not academic’ or better at ‘practical things.’ Whatever many mums and dad’s really thought about what was happening at school they didn’t want to make a fuss or put anyone out. School was best left to the teachers and it was up to the child or young person to make the most of it…or not. Continue reading »

The changing face of family fun


William is the youngest in our family by quite a long shot. He is still at primary school while his siblings are in their twenties. In fact one actually has a full time job, having finished a double degree last semester. This has many advantages for our youngest in that the older three spoil him terribly. This is particularly apparent at Christmas where they have stuck rigidly to the $20 and under rule for the parents but clearly tripled it for William. Continue reading »

Sport should not only be about winning


‘Sport’, says Spencer Willis, in his recent study for SPARC (now Sport NZ) ‘should not be viewed as an activity that is only about winning’.  Continue reading »

A journey of change with an elderly family member


Although we are parents, we are also children.  The change in our parents often begins quite slowly with the odd bit of help here and there. For me, with my mother, it was some shopping from time to time. Sometimes when I came back with the shopping, she would say ”But you didn’t get mandarins!” I would grit my teeth and say very calmly, “But you didn’t have them on your list!”  Also I had to be on the end of the phone when a problem arose with her TV remote or the hot water cylinder or whatever.

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A bit of a worry


At times most of us have seen our teens become overwhelmed by what ‘s happening in their lives – at school , with their friends , their teachers …the list is endless really. Fears about being seen as ‘stupid’ or a ‘loser’ or ‘loner’ are very real to them.

Sometimes they will even experience panic attacks which is an overwhelming fear in a “normal” situation. If a panic attack occurs in a classroom they may fear that when they are in class it will happen again – the panic is so frightening they may worry a lot about it happening and of course the more they worry the more likely it is too happen.

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The joy of feeling organised when studying


My big fear in 2012 was procrastination. I went back to University after a 30 year break with a sneaking suspicion that I would spend the year cleaning my house rather than focusing on my reading and writing. I am glad to report that I was able to resist shining my windows and spot cleaning the carpet, and I finished the year with a Post Graduate Diploma in Education. Continue reading »

Celebrating the little miracles


Albert Einstein said “There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.” Continue reading »

School support for depressed teenagers

School support for depressed teenagers

It’s sometimes a big shock to find your moody, irritable teenager, who’s behind in all their assignment work is, in fact, depressed. I’ve found depressed students in a school setting are often described as lazy and appear to lack motivation. Find out more about school support for depressed teenagers. Continue reading »

You don’t have to do it alone


Last night we had our book launch at the Massey University Centre of Psychology. We had a great night and a more than a  few giggles over the fact our book hadn’t actually arrived from the publisher!! We did have our cover to show off however and the book will be out in a few weeks. We have given you are a taste of what it’s about below – if you want to read try www.amazon.comand order your copy online, it won’t be there yet but it is coming. We will tell you exactly when on our website www.schoolandmore.co.nz .

It’s over forty years ago, since my only brother connected a hose pipe from his car exhaust and breathed in the fatal fumes. This was back in 1969 and there weren’t any support groups to turn to for help. Even if there had been, I couldn’t have poured out my feelings. Why? Because I didn’t really know what they were. I did know that I was weighed down and stunned and crushed and angry and so very confused. I somehow focused on making it his problem, or my Mother’s, never mine. I didn’t want to be victim or an object of pity; I didn’t want to be different. Was this a determined action to protect and defend myself? Probably. Continue reading »

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