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1 – 4 year old child behaviour

Are you searching for information and advice to help you as a parent to understand and help with a particular young child behaviour problem or issue? One year old screaming? Two year old tantrums? Aggressive three year old boy? Angry four year old girl ?

We provide¬†excellent articles re 1, 2, 3, & 4 Year Old Child Behaviour — the major problems & issues, including discipline strategies, typical or normal behaviour.

Also explore Child¬†Development articles —¬†1 – 4 Year¬†Old

1, 2, 3, 4 Year Old Child Behaviour

 Problems * Issues * Discipline

 Aggression

 Aggression in children
 Time Out for aggressive Toddlers

 Anger

 The Angry Child

 Arguing

 Arguing and Back-Talk

 Bad Language

 When a Child uses Bad Language
 When a Child uses Dirty Language

 Biting

¬†Why Kids Bite Other Kids¬†… and How To Stop It!
 Biting Must Never be Permitted

 Bullying

 Bullying 1
 Bullying 2
 What to do if your child is being Bullied
 What parents can do to combat Bullying
 Bully Proofing our Kids
 What if the Bully is YOUR child?

 Changes in behaviour

 Winds of Change
 Developmental Milestones РAges 3 & 4 years
 Assessing the Development of Pre-schoolers
 Toddler Milestones

 Communication

¬†Why Won’t My Child Talk To Me?
 Family Meetings build Stronger Ties
¬†Saying “No” to everything

 Discipline Strategies

 Discipline
 How to Discipline a child according to Age
 Top 10 Tips for Disciplining your Toddler
 Guiding your child with positive discipline
 Discipline without physical punishment
 Effective Time Out
 Time out and 1-2-3 Magic
 Using Time Out for Negative behaviors
 Guidelines for using Time Out with children
 The 7 Biggest Discipline Mistakes
 Positive Discipline & Child Guidance
 How to use Incentive Charts with Kids

 Divorce

 The Effects of Divorce on Children

 Eating Habits

 Bad Eating Habits start near age 2
 Banning Foods makes them more Desirable
 Dessert РNot Unless you Finish your Dinner
 Minimising Mealtime Mayhem
 How to Teach your child Polite Table Manners

 Fears

 Taming the Monster: Helping children deal with their Fears

 Goals of Parenting

¬†Parenting Roles¬†— overview of parental¬†roles and goals

 Good Behavior Strategies

 Encouraging good Toddler behaviour
¬†Why Won’t My Child Talk To Me
 10 Tips for Nurturing your Child

 Hyperactivity

 Living with a Hyperactive Child
 Hyperactivity and ADHD
 How to Discipline a Hyperactive child

 Listening

¬†When the Kids Won’t Listen
 The child who Interrupts
 Toddler Listening & Talking

 Lying

 When Children Lie
 Help! My child Lies

 Manners

 Manners, Please!

 Media (TV, Computers, Video Games, etc)

 Managing media use in the home
 How to promote good television habits

 Misbehaviour

 Causes of Misbehavior
 Talking to young children when they Misbehave
 When your child misbehaves
 Toddler Tantrums
¬†What’s so terrible about being two?
 Dealing with Tantrums
 Getting through the Terrible Twos

 Nail Biting

 Nail Biting

 Nose Picking

 Stop Picking your Nose

 Patience

 How to Teach a child Patience

 Paying Attention

 Diagnostic Guidelines for ADHD
 Free Advice about ADHD

 Pets

 How to Teach Children to be Kind to Animals

 Reward Systems

 Bribery vs. Reinforcement
 The Family Chip Reward System

 Safety

 Teaching Your child to be Safe
 Child Safety РTips, Advice
 Internet Safety

 Self Esteem

 Self Esteem Spirals

 Separation Anxiety

 Toddler Separation Anxiety

 Separation (Parental)

 When parents separate: How you can help children cope

 Shopping

 10 Tips for Shopping with Children

 Shyness

 The Shy Child

 Sibling Rivalry

 Sibling Rivalry 1
 Sibling Rivalry 2
 Sibling Rivalry and how to Stop it

 Single Parenting

¬†Single Parents — section of 15 articles for parents going solo

 Sleep

¬†Children’s Sleep Habits
 Getting Kids to Bed
 Nightmares and Nightterrors
 Nightmare, Night Terrors & Sleep Walking
 Bedwetting
 Too Scared to go to Sleep?
 Whose Bedtime is it Anyway?
 Bedtime Rituals can get children to sleep on time

 Smacking / Spanking

 To Spank or Not to Spank?
 To Smack or not to Smack

 Stealing

 When Young Children Steal
 What to do when a Child Steals

 Step Parenting

 Your Kid gets up my Nose
 Step Parents

 Stress

 Helping your child deal with Stress

 Teasing

 Helping children deal with Teasing
 Teasing and the Short Child

 Thumb sucking

 Thumbsucking

 Toilet Training

¬†Toilet Training: Don’t Rush Kids
 Potty Training Advice, Tips & Potties
 Potty Training should be spelled RELAX

 Travel

 Travelling with your Preschooler

 Weight problems

 3 Mistakes Parents of Overweight Kids make
 Weight can Damage Self-Esteem
 Overweight: a Weight Reduction Program

 Whining

 Eliminate Whining
 How to help stop your child from whining

 

 

 

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  • JulieMulcahy

    Hi Leigh

    My appologies for the long delay. I am sure the situation you are in is a very miserable one .

    You are very right to look for support as grief and loss are likely to play a role in the situation you find yourself in.

    I will give you some contacts where support may be available.

    Tell
    the receptionist what the difficulties you are experiencing are and ask
    for their help. Let them know you are at the end of your tether and
    need help – now!

    PH 0800 KidStart I 0800 543 782

    kidstart@barnardos.org.nz

    Bernardos provide a range of support services that parents can request including

    Family Support Service that can provide in home support and guidance.

    Bernardos
    also can support Work and Income subsidies for childcare and when the
    child is 3yrs old would be able to access 20hrs ECE (which is up to 6
    hours day free care – Maximum of 20 hours).
    http://www.familyworks.org.nz
    Tel: 09 448 2633
    Fax: 09 415 8073
    E mail: northshore@northern.familyworks.org.nz

    Costs:
    fees are on a sliding scale according to income and other financial
    commitments a family has. Payment will be decided on in discussion with
    the appointed counsellor and will fall in the range of $20 – $90 per
    session.

    There are many services to support people needing help with grief and loss.
    You could ring you Citizens advice Bureau for a local contact or your local hospice.

    You could contact Family Works who are a wonderful organisation who work NZ wide.

    They only charge what you can afford and will come to you at home if it suits you better. Contacts are on their website –

    http://www.familyworks.org.nz

    They
    could help you develop strategies to cope with these difficult
    behaviours as well as help you to understand what is happening for your
    neice.

    Don’t forget support for yourself. You can ring your local
    woman’s centre and chat to them about what is going on. They may have
    groups you can get involved with that will offer you practical help as
    well as friendship.

    All the very best in your journey towards creating a happy living space for you all.
    What a beautiful person you are.

    Julie

  • Leighross

    HI,
    I have a 3 1/2 year old daughter and I have just moved in with my
    brother to help out with his 3 year old daughter as his wife died last
    year and life has been a bit chaotic since then. There have been quite
    dramatic problems with the two girls since moving in with lots of
    fighting. My daughter had never been exposed to this behaviour before
    and I understand her cousin is attempting to claim her space and my
    daughter is the same as her world has also been turned upside down to do
    this but I am not sure what to do about it. My brother is getting upset
    that his daughter’s toys are being played with etc but i’m more
    concerned with the ‘nastiness’ being expressed from my niece which then
    causes my daughter to retaliate>
    Please help!

  • JulieMulcahy

    Hmmm. I have gone in again and this time have been more specific. I hope this helps

    1.Click on Celebrity Columns.
    2.Click on Diane’s picture.
    3.On the right hand top corner a black envelope appears.
    4.It has email written in blue to the right of the envelope.
    5. Good Luck

    Julie

  • Jed

    Sorry Julie,
    For the life of me I still can’t find the email contact!
    Maybe you could forward it on for me if this is OK with you?

  • JulieMulcahy

    Hi there. Just click on Diane’s column. When you are in Diane’s page
    there is a red envelope on the top right hand corner with ‘email’
    written under it. If you click on that you can e mail Diane directly.
    I hope you hear from her soon.

    Julie

  • Jed

    Thanks for your response! I just wondered which email address on the
    kiwi families website do I contact Diane Levy through? Is it through the
    “contact us” page?

  • JulieMulcahy

    oops – sorry about all those spelling mistakes!! I will type my answers
    in future using ‘word’ with my best friend the spellcheck!!

    Julie

  • JulieMulcahy

    Parenting takes us to the best and the worst places.

    Watching
    our dearly loved wee ones behave badley is just awful . We feel such
    failures at these times / embaressed , alone and isolated with our
    “problem”

    The flip side is you will never forget this and will be
    a wonderful support for others whom you will meet over the years
    struggling with their children / teens. You’ll be the last person to
    pass judgement or look down your nose at them!!

    You have already made some really sound choices. Working as a team with the kindy teachers is a great idea.
    The
    Early Intervention Team will provide a wealth of support – ring them
    yourself and ask to speak to the Manager. Explain how desparate you are
    and ask if they can help. They may be able to apply for interim funding
    until a member of their team is available. This funding could be used
    for a teacher aid who supports your son’s behaviour at kindy.
    At the very least I would hope you could get an estimated time that they can start working with you and your son.

    Another
    approach could be to ask a behaviour specialist to meet with you and
    the kindy staff to put a plan in place. Why not email the wonderful
    Diane Levy for her advice on this? What an amazing resource she is and
    you can email her through the kiwi families si
    te.
    Diane is really
    experienced in dealing with our little ones and the dynamics of family
    life. She is so practical and of course able to view your situation from
    an outsiders viewpoint. The changes she may recommend may not be as big
    as the ones you are considering but they may make a big change to your
    son’s behaviour and how you are feeling right now.

    Good on you
    for actively seeking the help you need. What a fabulous mum , who loves
    her own boy unconditionally but cares also about the impact of his
    behaviour on others.

    Check out our interview with super – kindy – teacher Christine Murray from Takapuna Kindy on http://www.springboardnz.com .

    Hang in there – you’re doing so many things right!

  • Jed

    Hi

    My son has been at kindy since february of this year. We have
    been having problems with his social interactions with other children.
    He pushes, pulls hair, doesn’t like to share and likes taking things
    from other children or destroying their paintings/sandcastles etc. I
    also notice that he doesn’t engage in activities for long periods there
    but he does so at home. The kindy is a very full kindy with 15 children
    to a teacher with 45 children at the kindy often there is no parent
    help. I have done some once a term. There is one teachers aide as well.
    The teachers don’t have the time to watch his every move and we and the
    kindy teachers are at a loss to know what to do, so they have called in
    group special education and they cannot tell us when he will be seen by
    them.

    At home, since we discussed these things with the teachers
    we have been more consistent with timeout and sticker charting and
    praise. He has a 1 year old sister. Generally they play nicely together.
    He often doesn’t like to share with her though and does take her toys
    but has improved since we have improved our systems. I have been reading
    Diane’s books and have been looking at the personality type and I think
    he is Choleric/ Melancholic. Based on this I think he may need to have
    more attention from teachers so I think we may look at porse childcare
    or a private kindy.
    Could you please tell me what you think? It
    drives me to tears some days when I hear what he has been doing. I don’t
    want him to be a bully. I was bullied when I was a young girl so I know
    what its like. I love my son dearly but we just need some help with
    him!

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