Writers: Kathy Fray

Kathy Fray

Kathy is a wife; mother of three; north Auckland self-employed midwife; weekly Parenting columnist; founding director of BabyOK™ Products (producers of the renowned Babe-Sleeper); and author of NZ’s No.1 guide for new mums “OH BABY…Birth, Babies & Motherhood Uncensored” and the sequel “OH GROW UP…Toddlers to PreTeens Decoded”. You can find out more about Kathy on her website.

Preparing Your Relationship for Post-baby Bliss!

Preparing Your Relationship for Post-baby Bliss

How is it possible to completely prepare a couple for the underground atomic implosion that usually occurs in a relationship post-baby? Let’s be frank about it — you can’t, not really. Just as you can’t really prepare for a death, it’s difficult to prepare your relationship for post-baby bliss! Continue reading »

Toddlers – carefree, risk-taking, naughty little thrill-seekers

Toddlers naughty little thrill-seekers

Ah, the toddler… a fully mobile being with virtually no common sense! With the exception of their afternoon siesta, toddlers can be active all day long! Toddlers are meant to be carefree, risk-taking, thrill-seekers. Continue reading »

The 5 P’s of Normal Labour and Birth

5 P’s of Normal Labour and Birth

Kiwi Families resident midwife expert, Kathy Fray, breaks down the textbook version of the birthing process. But she adds in a fundamental process that all expecting Mothers need to consider – preparation. Find out more in the 5 P’s of normal labour and birth. Continue reading »

Why I chose to be a midwife

Why I chose to be a midwife


I’ve been asked to reflect on why I chose to be a midwife. I wonder, if perhaps I never really chose it – but it chose me. An enigma of sorts. Continue reading »

The 5 Ps to normal labour and birth

Newborn baby girl

Traditionally childbirth has been described as consisting of three “mechanisms”:

Powers – The forceful strength of co-ordinated contractions
Passage – The birth canal anatomy, including the size and shape of the woman’s bony pelvis, and resistance of her soft tissue
Passenger – The baby, particularly its lie and position of its head Continue reading »

Can starchy foods be harming your baby?

Can starchy foods be harming your baby

It’s now recommended to start babies on solids between 4 and 6 months. However, in conflict to our supermarket shelves adorned with baby-rice, baby-porridge and baby-muesli, science warns against feeding infants a diet rich in starchy foods (also known as farinaceous foods, e.g. rice, breads, potatoes, porridge, cereals, crackers, etc). In fact, some people believe they’re simply the worst meals to feed young babies!

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Did you know some babies are born with teeth? My great-uncle was born with two! On the other hand, some infants don’t get their first teeth until after their first birthday. Babies vary tremendously as to when, and in what order, the little ‘pearls’ arrive in their mouth. But as a big generalisation:

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Ten Steps to a Joyful Life

Steps to a joyful life

“We are not human beings having a spiritual experience,

We are spiritual beings having a human experience.”

— Paleontologist, philosopher and Jesuit priest Pierre Teilhard de Chardin (1881-1955)

I wanted ‘it all’, but it took me 35-40 years to realise that we’re not actually supposed to have it all, all of the time. Why not? Because, that’s Life!

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Healthier homes


Kiwi women are commencing menstruation earlier and developing larger breasts. Kiwi men sperm-counts have halved. We have to ask ourselves why?! Of course, nutrition is a huge part of the complex situation. So almost every day society in general is becoming just a little bit more aware of the positive ramifications of eating organic food – meaning the type of food human beings had always eaten until 50-60 years ago, now fashionably called bio-dynamic food.

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Sleep baby sleep – 13 steps to a sleeping baby

sleep baby sleep

When heavily pregnant with your first baby, you can often begin to feel rather swamped with peoples’ remarks regarding the pending sleep deprivation which is going to beset you once your baby is born… Continue reading »

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